I am Turkish and Egyptian and my husband is Black (mixed somewhere down the line because he is very fair). From the second we started dating, people just have such a problem with us. I mean especially from Black Women and Middle Eastern men. Sometimes we get the worst treatment at restaurants and the weirdest looks. We are as happy as can be but I just don’t understand people. I don’t want to judge people so I just want to know what is the problem? What is so upsetting?
Black women probably feel like you’re ‘taking away’ a black men from black women. It’s a weird sense of entitlement, that they feel that black men should be dating black women and they feel collectively rejected because he has chosen to be with a non-white woman.
I am a black woman myself, and I have no problem with interracial dating, my dad is black and my mother is white, so I myself am a product of a still ongoing interracial marriage. However I feel that a lot of black people, ESPECIALLY black women are ostracized for dating outside their race and accused of being self-hating if they don’t choose a spouse of the same color. Granted some black people DO suffer from self-hatred, but it’s wrong to assume any black person who dates outside their race does so.
With the middle-Eastern men that frown upon your marriage, well I think it’s the same problem there. They think all arab women ‘belong’ to them and should only date other middle-eastern men. They probably also feel rejected, because they think that you must have some kind of problem with middle-Eastern men for choosing to be with a black man.
Don’t take it too hard. It’s your life. Let people think whatever you want. You can’t and should not live your life to please others.